happiness i've earned

We often miss to appreciate a lot of interactions we make everyday. But little do we care that those small conversations and silly laughs make each of our days different from yesterday. We remember the conversations only with special people or with big shot persons. What struck me most about today was my ‘salon spree’. I was there for a hair treatment. While remedying my hair, the attendant chats with me. She advices me on how to manage my hair properly, natural substitutes for hair treatments and maintenance that I should do to care for my hair and some other simple things like where I study, what year level I am in, the price of hair treatments and just anything. I was sitting there for four hours or more. I got my hair wet, blowdried, ironed, treated, washed, blowdried again, ironed and when I got done, I thanked her and showed her a big smile. There were few employees who attended on me but only Ate Nita conversed that long with me.
I came to value that conversation maybe because of some interesting tidbits that we shared or maybe it was just her kind voice and caring gestures. It’s not everyday that I remember and appreciate interactions and small talks with other people whom especially I don’t have any connections with. There was such joy that she contributed to me. For that fours hours, I guess it’s also her job to exchange good conversations with customers.

>>the communication act delineated by the situation above was interpersonal. Which has the responder and initiator. On this communication act, we could apply the axioms 1 and 3 of the Uncertainty Reduction Theory, which were verbal communication (axiom 1) and Information seeking (axiom 3). Wherein for axiom 1 it says that the high level of uncertainty present at the onset of the entry phase, as the amount of verbal communication between strangers increases, the level of uncertainty for each interactant in the relationship will decrease. And also the communication can be depicted by axiom no. 3 which tells us that high levels of uncertainty cause increases in information-seeking behavior. It is evident on that situation that uncertainty was reduced because both of us continues to respond with each other while accompanying some questions that will somehow reveal who the speaker is and further relaxes each other’s impression.

stranger and merely a stranger. (period)

i was on my mood to sleep early last night, and as i laid on my bed, the guy who i just met few weeks back just popped in my mind. . . It was sem break when i was strolling on the streets (outside our house) with sophie(our puppy) when he happened to pass by. at first glance, i find him well enough--a tall and neat guy, not really that good-looking though.Sophie, as her usual self, barked at him and chased him (actually i was holding her chain), then he just smiled at me and asked me what was my pup's breed then i just answered him. when he reached the borderline, as i call it (an end of a concrete area of the street), he went back and asked for my name. i found nothing wrong 'bout telling it and so i did. then a few questions followed and the conversation started. then i noticed he's not going somewhere and was actually following me wherever i go, so then i asked him then he replied he just wanted to make friends and was somekinda curious if i just moved in (duh!). so then, i just answered him. on that time, i never knew should i be flattered or what or maybe he was just really friendly. after that i never expected we'd see each other again but then we did. the second time, he invited me if i could hang-out with him but i was hesitant because i was ill(actually not really, just a way of avoiding him). the last time i saw him was just last saturday. again, he just passed by when he saw me sittin' outside, texting. he called me but then it was raining so i just told him to hurry up walking and go home. hahaha=). after the rain has passed, he came back again and asked for my cellphone number. ironically, i just went inside the house and shut him the door. hehe=)

this is crazy right??! i reacted that way simply because i was thinking that he might be an 'akyat-bahay' or what. hahaha!=) right now, i don't want to see him again but yet i'm still wondrin' what if i did the other thing?? but well, all i can say, "its crazy!". =p

>>that situation depicted an interpersonal communication act, wherein there is a clear example of the initiator and responder. Adjustments and feedbacks were present in that situation which makes the communication effective. But due to the hesitation of the other speaker(which i think may either be the initiator or responder) the effectiveness of the communication was also affected and in turn disrupted the other person to continue to convey his message. this may apply to Social Penetration Theory mainly because both of the communicators set the boundaries of informations that should be shared. Comparing it to the onion model, the depth of penetration of intimacy is just on the first layer or on the surface skin.

ei!

welcome to my new world! This is a new thing for me. hehe=) I guess you'll gonna find me here for the coming months. . . hope to enjoy this. =p